• captainlezbian@lemmy.world
    13·
    3 days ago

    My problem is that she’s naked and clinging to me when my alarm goes off. Not only do I have to leave the warm bed, I have to force myself to pry off a beautiful naked woman who doesn’t want me to leave…

  • Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.caEnglish
    68·
    4 days ago

    But she’s sleeping peacefully so I smile and close the door quietly hoping she’ll wake up feeling refreshed and well-rested.

    • late_pessimistic@slrpnk.netEnglish
      426·
      4 days ago

      I downvoted because I hate people talking about romantic relationships experiences like everyone has or had one. And overall reminding me in any way romantic love exists

    • orioler25@lemmy.world
      2129·
      3 days ago

      probably because it’s a bit rapey…

      Oh yeah, you guys really hate it when I point out rape culture stuff.

      Edit: getting a bunch of the dumb responses I got earlier now that all the Euros and Americans are off work. Read the thread with the explanation and then you can go quietly feel like a dumbass, I’m not answering any more losers raging about having to actually try to be good people.

        • orioler25@lemmy.world
          737·
          4 days ago

          I think that’s how men are reading it, yeah, but it reads to me like, “oh boy, I sure want to fuck my hot sleeping gf rn, but I gotta do workies :(” I know the demos on this site means most people are going to read it as “I don’t want to work, and my hot sleeping gf is comforting,” and even that is honestly fucked up and objectifying.

          edit: Okay, i know for a fact many of you didn’t think twice about the sexual connotations of this meme beyond that you’d also want sex in that same situation. If it disturbs you that this qualifies as rape culture, in all honesty, grow up and remember that in the future. Everyone has internalized values, they don’t make you a bad person inherently, but you are a bad person when you refuse to address them in light of opportunities to do so.

          • Zensate@lemmy.world
            262·
            4 days ago

            Please tell me this is a joke

            Have you woke-ified wanting to sleep with your partner?

            • orioler25@lemmy.world
              723·
              4 days ago

              While they’re unconscious and not in a sexual situation? Yeah, I’m gonna wokeify a meme making light of the assumptions men make about this situation. Lemmites respond very negatively when I point out rape culture on here, and as I said, that isn’t surprising given the userbase.

              • boonhet@sopuli.xyz
                3·
                3 days ago

                What rape culture in this case? If I saw my gf (not that I have one right now) sleeping with her legs open and a titty out, I’d find it hot and endearing (in a she’s comfortable enough with me to sleep like that kinda way), and perhaps I’d go back to bed to cuddle with her till she wakes up on her own and see if said cuddling leads to morning sexytime. And I’d be extra horny from being awake in close contact with her (mostly or completely) naked body so it would be even better (or I might have to go jack off in the toilet if it doesn’t happen). Has happened a couple of times, mostly when waking up to go to pee or something, not when I needed to go to work obviously.

                I don’t think any man who’s not already way too OK with rape would just straight up go to town on a woman in her sleep without it being agreed upon before. Fantasizing about her and actually doing something about it while she’s sleeping are very different things.

                Of the women I’ve been with, one explicitly said she’s okay with being woken up with sex (I didn’t ask her about it or anything, she just saw me all horny in the morning so I somewhat jokingly said “oh I was tempted to take you while you were sleeping” or something and she got upset that I hadn’t), and one said she’s into it, but our relationship was pretty fresh and she didn’t explicitly say she wants me to do it, so I didn’t take it as consent as much as just her talking about what she liked or had fantasized about.

                With the former I actually did it a couple of times, but soon realized that while her waking up suddenly to an orgasm was fun for both of us, the journey there is much more enjoyable if both parties are awake for it. With the latter, our relationship didn’t last long enough (unrelated reasons) for me to even consider bringing it up for real.

          • joelectron@lemmy.world
            141·
            4 days ago

            This is not inherently rape-y, and it seems weird to me that you immediately assumed it was.

            • orioler25@lemmy.world
              214·
              4 days ago

              Oh wow, that’s genuinely funny to use a common gaslighting tactic right below this comment (“you’re weird if you ‘assume’ dangerous behaviour”). This form of sexual violence is still super common, and most men still don’t challenge the assumed consent of a relationship; all of that of course besides the fact that they’re sexualizing her body in a non-sexual situation, which is just a bit of a problem on its own (but not necessarily depending on the relationship).

              So, yeah, it’s a bit rapey, and as I said, since this site is mostly youngish to middle-aged STEM men, that isn’t what these people are going to read from it even though it is present.

  • Im_old@lemmy.worldEnglish
    18·
    4 days ago

    “boss I’m going to be late. There’s a… hum… leak in the heating system I need to take care of”

  • Pat_Riot@lemmy.today
    24·
    4 days ago

    You’re sad that she’s so comfortable with you that you get to receive such a lovely view? Carry that image with you all day. Damn.