• Ostrakon@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    You can term this abuse if you want, but I see this as appropriate consequences for a hurtful act IMO. If you don’t like that don’t cheat.

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      11 days ago

      Revenge porn and recording someone having sex without consent is a crime regardless of what that person has done to you to hurt your feelings.

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        11 days ago

        Sure, I guess. I suppose it is also illegal for me to beat the shit out of someone who tried to mug me. It’s against the rules for a kid bullied in school to fight back. Certain actions invite harsh consequences. Doesn’t mean it’s not an entirely appropriate consequence to suffer for having cheated on someone.

        People don’t learn their lessons without consequences. And anyone who would violate someone’s trust like that certainly has a lesson that needs learning. I don’t get why you’re defending a cheater here, it is a very immature position to take in this situation and such an obvious and reasonable consequence for this person.

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          11 days ago

          Because people are justifying abuse when it’s very rarely, if ever, justified.

          One person’s actions don’t justify your abusive actions regardless of how hurt you are.

          Cheaters make terrible decisions that hurt their partners. I’m not defending that. But that’s independent of these revenge fantasies you all are coming up with for her.

          She was punished by the courts as was he for their separate actions.

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            10 days ago

            So if someone raped my daughter, you would defend that rapist from me trying to break every bone in their body?

            If yes, something is deeply wrong with you.

            If not, then we agree that sometimes consequences beyond what the law prescribes are appropriate. We just disagree where the line is, and it makes your reasoning pretty hollow.

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                10 days ago

                How is it a false equivalence? One person broke a rule and might receive legal consequences, and the act certainly merits something more severe than that. Do you not think the legal consequences are not enough in that case? Because following your logic here, you would defend that rapist.

                Again the only difference is where you draw the line, and that defeats the moral purity of your terrible argument. Abusers deserve the abuse they receive. End of fucking story.

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                    10 days ago

                    Sure sounds to me like you are defending that rapists “rights” rather than subject them to a punishment they richly deserve. I think there would be a lot fewer rapists in the world if we made sure we actually made sure their actions had appropriate consequences.