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If you do this about your spouse to your friends, they are gonna know because all your friends hate them or are awkward around them.
Spy X Family S3E10
I’m a guy and this is me with my friends. Every time we hang out they have such boomer attitudes about their wives, one is even convinced that I’m gonna get divorced just because he did and views all marriages that way. It’s depressing, but there is one friend in the group who agrees with me that our wives are our best friends and soulmates.
I’ve had the opposite experience. A few year ago a bunch of the guys I hung out with in college got together at a Wurstfest (German festival every November in Bew Braunfels, Texas), and got super drunk. All the married guys were talking about how they just loved their wives so much.
It was super wholesome.
German festival every November in Bew Braunfels, Texas
Oh man, I was expecting a town in Germany and nearly broke my brain trying to pronounce “Bew Braunfels” in German.
Then I read the “Texas”. 😅
one is even convinced that I’m gonna get divorced just because he did and views all marriages that way
Classic Divorced Guy
there is one friend in the group who agrees with me that our wives are our best friends and soulmates
Wife and I joke about how we can never get divorced because it would be too awkward when we kept hanging out as friends.
But we also have a friend couple that did get divorced, and still hang out regularly on very good terms.
But we also have a friend couple that did get divorced, and still hang out regularly on very good terms.
Some people are just better as friends than lovers and I think that’s awesome if they can figure that out before doing irreparable damage to said friendship.
I have a pretty significant ex, and it certainly took some introspection and painful internal work, but I eventually was able to hang out with them again and still really value their friendship; I even invited them to my wedding, and attended theirs in kind.
As I saw it, this person was my best friend for the majority of six years together, and I didn’t want to totally discard that part of myself that had that friendship, even if the romantic relationship didn’t ultimately work out.
I’m no longer sure the romance part can even be real.
It’s just friends all the way down.
I dated a guy for 13 years, when we finally broke up we were still going to events together!
Same here
After a few beers I usually just try to hold back the question why they’re even together with their wife, if they’re so unhappy with her
I do get, that some people just need to vent, but I don’t have anything bad to say about my wife.
She loves this piece of shit, that I am. In my eyes she is an absolute saint
It’s the “Ain’t it Awful” game. Just tell them he has a small dick and they’ll concede. It works twofold: they’ll feel sorry for you, and you won’t have to worry that they’ll try to fuck him.
This is quite a male take. Women don’t really complain about this and it isn’t anywhere near comparable to not helping with housework.
Besides, we need to normalize talking about competent partners. So many women I know are in terrible relationships because they’ve convinced themselves that all men are awful.
Women don’t really complain about this and it isn’t anywhere near comparable to not helping with housework.
shitty partners shitty, etc, but…
Fellas, would you rather have a huge dick and not do housework, or a tiny dick and do housework?
I’ve been saying for years that “men are trash” is just the woke version of “boys will be boys” because it still normalizes shitty behavior amongst men.
Relationships work best when you just do things.
Only job I don’t touch is laundry. I’m perfectly fine doing it, but my spouse has the most convaluted ADHD non-system. When I do help I end up washing clean clothes and putting away dirty clothes because I can’t tell what pile is what.
I love my partner but honestly, gun to my head, I could never get a load of her laundry done without disaster. I tried, but determining which of her infinite identical black articles of clothing are hand-wash only, which are dry-clean only, which are cold wash hang-dry, which are tumble dry light, etc. is a skill I completely lack. Add to it that she’s autistic as all hell and so has removed the tags from every article of clothing she owns and I never stood a chance on this one…
(meanwhile my own laundry follows the “if it can’t go into the wash on heavy-duty, hot, it’s weak and needs to be culled from the herd” line of thinking. I’m not particularly presentable, I admit.)
Yeah, my wife and I have a general rule that if it goes in the laundry basket it gets cold regular duty then high heat tumble dry unless otherwise stated (as in each time it’s in there). I’ve got a few hang drys and so I just say I’m doing the laundry when they’re in it. And I always fold because I’m the one who’s more peculiar about how my dresser is organized.
There’s a certain point in peculiarity where if you need the chore done that way you can do it yourself or you can learn to live with how your partner does it
All I had to do was ruin a few articles of her clothing and I was off the job. I was truly trying to be helpful, but the blowback was real. I still do my own, however.
First sentence sounded a lot like weaponized incompetence. 😅
IKR? I was accused of that, but it was honestly unintentional even if the results were not entirely undesirable…
Laundry go in machine come out wet. Put in next machine, come out dry. It was a while ago and I have since learned there is nuance with fabrics/temps/hang dry, etc. I still do just my own laundry as the lesson is not forgotten, but I am also approved for general sheets and towels duty. You do what you will with the original information!
My wife and i kind of just fell into set tasks that we dont mind doing, but the other person hates. For example, i hate emptying the dishwasher, but i dont mind filling it. She does all the laundry, i do all the bathroom cleaning.
I saw this from another angle a while ago. Speaking to a group of women at work and mentioned I do pretty much all the cooking at home. One of them asked what I make and I got the impression she doubted my ability, she is older and perhaps basing this off her own husband.
So I listed some weekday meals I typically make, made a point that it is all stuff I make after work too because someone had mentioned not having the time to cook.
Sourdough pizza, egg fried rice and lemon chicken, toad in the hole, pie with roast potatoes and gravy. Then sometimes if we want a pudding I sometimes make rice pudding, or steamed sponge like a jam roly poly or spotted dick.
Please don’t be alarmed, but I am finding out where you live and coming round for my tea.
I always found that so difficult to grasp, too. Even if you’re splitting responsibilities, so that one person does the dayjob and the other does the household, hell, even if you’ve decided to be a terrible partner, how do you never think to yourself:
- “I need some space on this table, let me just put away a few things.” or
- “I’d like this one specific meal that I have in mind, I’ll try to prepare it.”
???
Ooh, I can answer the first one! With two answers!
Answer one is because things that I already saw there basically fade into the background. You know how in, like, Hannah Barbara cartoons it’d be obvious when a cupboard was going to open, because they had the static background painted on a different layer, and the moving objects were on foreground cells with slightly different colours? Right, so, when I first notice something new in a new location I might go “huh, why is that there?”, but once I’ve seen it, it’s now not new, and I basically don’t see it anymore. So long as it’s not actively in my way, it’s a static part of the background.
There have been times when I was actively trying to clean up a room because we were going to have guests over, and I noticed I had been cleaning around a large white plastic bag that was on the coffee table, probably from some food delivery in the past several months. Like, my whole job was cleaning and tidying, and it was like the bright white bag was part of the table. I think it’s just always been there 😛
It wasn’t until I had already cleaned under the edges of it that I went “hang on… This is garbage. Why am I trying to preserve this and keep it undisturbed?”
Unfortunately my wife is, I think, basically the same way, so our house is a nightmare. Or it would be if either of us could see it 😉
The second reason is much simpler, which it that when something is in a place, and I know I didn’t put it there, I assume my wife may have put it there for a reason. So probably best to not touch it, in case she wanted it here, or comes looking for it here again in the future.
Ope, that hits hard, but with the added bonus of I don’t remember who put what where so something may be somewhere for a reason (like the pomegranates on the table that are there specifically so I dearil them today after work), but I may not remember the reason or it seems like effort I don’t feel like spending to act on it. And slowly why it’s there may fade. Or I just left the bag on the counter because I was very hungry for the Chinese food that was inside it on Friday…
My apartment is finally largely unpacked and so when it’s finished I’m hoping to build a habit of regularly tidying up again. I develop it occasionally between periods of life beating the shit out of my household
I can so relate to the “it’s probably there for a reason” part 😅
I also know my wife does a lot of things automatically and I really shouldn’t assume there’s any reason behind it, but it’s the path of least resistance.
Hey, a PizzaCake comic with a punchline! Keep up the good work!
Wow, you really know how to give compliments.
It was in earnest. I’m one of the haters and this got a chuckle out of me.
Same! I guess we won’t get branded as incel misogynists this time for saying it’s not funny!
Seriously, this one was actually a comic, and was funny!
She used to be so funny before she pivoted to “my haters are neckbeard incels” content instead of actual comics.
Edit: looks like she’s been making better comics again for about a month or two https://bsky.app/profile/pizzacakecomic.bsky.social
And she’s saying something positive about men.
Do you think she’s OK?
My wife enjoys cooking, I don’t really like it.
My wife hates doing dishes, but I find it a nice excuse to listen to a podcast while doing something menial.
You can’t do that, 99% of old memes rely on people despising their spouse!
Give it a few years they’ll get sick of each other.
This is why old married people get nostalgic at weddings, they remember when it was still fun.
Not to say you shouldn’t fall in love, just don’t expect it to last forever.
Edit: I see young people in here who don’t know any old married couples
Skill issue
how old is “old married couple”.
I’m 40 and I’ve been dating/married to my wife for 14 years. I am still quite happy and in love with her.
Actually after re-counting, I’ve been married for 14 years, dating for 7 more.
Haha wife bad. You sure gottem.
You’re right - you can’t expect it to last forever. You gotta maintain! Keep the fire burning! Keep flirting, keep finding ways to make them happy!
Do my friend’s grandgrand parents count as “old”? Cuz they are still sometimes lovey dovey in the cheesiest ways I ever saw and didn’t know were possible before
Do you live in an area that socially disapproves of divorce? In my area there are plenty of unhappy young couples who eventually break up, but the old couples all really like each other because if they didn’t, they’d just get divorced.
I’m in my fifties and have been married for 30 years.
I love my wife. she’s taken such good care of me even though I’m completely undeserving in my opinion.
sounds like you’re just a angry child who never learned to love.
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